Beware, for this post is dark and full of spoilers for Game of Thrones up to season 8, episode 4.
...I told you so. I know, people shouldn't say "told you so", but why is anyone surprised? Many, many people on the internet complaining about Daenerys' "sudden villainness" and "complete turnaround" and "ruining her character arc"... ehm, no? Absolutely not. Her character arc is reaching the logical conclusion it has been building up to since... I'd say, at least since Meereen. Possibly earlier. I don't find her recent development strange, I don't find it out of place. Infuriating, yes, I want to strangle her whenever I see her on screen (which, by the way, has nothing to do with Emilia Clarke - she's a good actress, and she's playing her character excellently; it's just that her character is an awful b***h, kinda like Jack Gleeson with Joffrey). But it is consistent. Game of Thrones has not always been great with consistency, but I'll applaud it for following through with Daenerys' development.
She is insane. She is megalomaniac. She is a tyrant. And she became it gradually, not all of a sudden:
Season 1:
Daenerys is a shy girl who has been raised by Viserys aka Walking Nutjob Out Of Throne, her older brother with crumbling delusions of grandeur who needs to assert his dominance by emotionally / verbally / possibly sexually abusing his sister. Note that Daenerys is initially very quiet around Viserys because she doesn't want to provoke him. She is fully aware that he's cruel and crazy, and, as she later notes when she starts standing up to him, she is also aware that he's weak.
She is sold off to marry Horselord McMuscles, who proceeds to rape her for a few weeks... and then she falls in love with him or something. Stockholm syndrome, I guess. Though the circumstances of them developing their relationship to a loving couple are interesting: Drogo starts considering her his queen and partner when she gains his respect - by asserting herself. It's only then that Daenerys begins to see him in a positive light as well - after she has gained a certain control over him. First only sexually, but then she learns to manipulate him. She demands slaves for herself so she can protect them, dismissing the other Dothraki's claims, and Drogo lets her have them, and she gets him to promise her the Iron Throne, not instantly, but after some incentive Drogo makes this grand speech about travelling across the sea and conquering the Seven Kingdoms. Note that Daenerys brought up this subject as soon as Viserys' corpse was cold. First this "all I want is a home" charade and her feeling oh-so-at-home among the Dothraki, but when the (in her opinion) rightful heir of the Iron Throne, Viserys, is out of the way, she wants the thing for herself. She doesn't actually need it, arguably. Drogo adores her, and she's a damn powerful Khaleesi of a damn powerful Khal, worshipped by the other Dothraki and mother-to-be of a baby that's praised in his own prophecy. She has people there, she is about to build a family there. She doesn't know Westeros, not one bit. But she wants it anyway.
Enter Mirri Maz Duur, and Daenerys fails to see how someone whose home has been raided by Dothraki may not be too inclined to actually be friendly to Dothraki. Cue loss of her husband and protector, cue loss of her child. Cue downfall, cue pyre, cue dragons. I give her that, it was a nice move, risky and it paid off. It was the first time Daenerys experienced a sense of invincibility. Girl stepped into a fire and all she got was a bit of grime on her. She brought dragons back into the world. Sweet so far.
She killed a person for them. Fair enough, Mirri Maz Duur killed her child and practically killed Drogo as well. I understand that she wants vengeance. It's her method of execution that bothers me: She has Mirri Maz Duur burned alive. That is an extremely painful, cruel death. Mirri Maz Duur screams half her lungs out before she dies. And Daenerys' reaction to someone suffering at her hand is... absolutely nothing. Her face is blank. It was blank as well when she allowed Drogo to kill Viserys. One could argue that Viserys was cruel to her, so her sympathies are, of course, limited. But Viserys also raised her, kept her alive when she was a little girl who fled from one city to another. He was a constant in a world of uncertainty and paranoia. She didn't feel anything when he died. No empathy for his pain, no grief.
There's also the length she is willing to go for Drogo. Blood magic. She knows it's a dirty business. She's being told so from several Dothraki, her people, that they cannot support her in that. She shouldn't be surprised that they abandon her after she crosses lines that they consider an absolute taboo. Daenerys will dismiss a lot of taboos yet.
Season 2:
Uh, can we ignore the Qarth arc? It was boring AF... of course, Daenerys has a few occasions to show anger. When her bloodrider Rakharo loses his head, she swears vengeance on those who did that. I don't think she ever follows through on that. She later meets the Dothraki again, but does she bother to find out who killed Rakharo and execute those who did it? Eh.
Then she gets pissed when Irri is murdered, and the infamous "WHERE ARE MY DRAGONS?!" You don't want anyone to steal from you, don't flaunt, girl. What does she expect when she walks into a city full of profit-orientated strangers? She seems to assume everyone is super-eager to throw ships and wealth at her. What did she do to deserve that? Right. Nothing. She held a couple speeches, duh.
We're going with a couple more killings here. Pyat Pree in the House of the Undying, and Doreah and What's-his-face-again. It's still people who personally wronged her. And again, she kills them with very cruel methods, for the latter two a prolonged death by starving / suffocating. She does it, again, showing the emotional range of a statue.
And then struts off to new adventures, after her Dothraki raid What's-his-face-again's house. Eh, I guess he doesn't need the stuff anymore. But she relies on the Dothraki way here. She originally reprimanded two of her warriors for their suggestion to rob their host, but in the end, that's exactly what she does so she can buy a ship, so she can reach her next goal. That's okay, she has lived with the Dothraki for long enough to consider them her people... except she wants to take them with herself to Westeros. Dothraki are not Westerosi. Daenerys knows nothing about Westerosi, as becomes evident later. But she never realizes that, with Dothraki methods, she can't get the respect of the people of Westeros.
The vision in the House of the Undying... hm. Interesting was the part in the throne room of the Red Keep. "Snow on the throne", yes, I see the symbolism, it's not too subtle. Read somewhere it's ashes raining down, but come on, there are icicles growing in the room. Yes, the Red Keep is in ruins in that vision, but that's definitely winter in that hall, perhaps after Daenerys made her big dragon attack.
Season 3:
Arguably my favorite season in regards to Daenerys. Girl does good. Very, very good. Collects new advisors around her who know what they're doing, gets an army, frees cities. Liberates slaves. Conquest of Astapor - yes, please, anytime! "Kill every slaver, every man who holds a whip, but harm no child" - THAT'S how you liberate! Why couldn't you stay like that, Dany? Fulfilling her mission, but taking the necessary precautions not to harm innocents. And the first big "Dracarys", way before I began to hate that word and what it means. She burned one more person. An evidently and shamelessly evil person, a man who is responsible for I don't know how many dead babies. He deserved to die, she killed him. Also note that she has a facial expression this time - disdain and repugnance. Slavery is something that really gets to her, and she really wants to erase it.
It is a great moment for her, gathering a following she actually earns and offering the Unsullied the choice on whether they want to follow her or leave. They choose her for their queen and follow her out of Astapor and to the rest of Slaver's Bay, which still leaves me with the question on how she ever manages to feed her troops, but whatever. A great victory, and Dany is undeniably the good guy there. And off she goes to Yunkai, to repeat the procedure. Well done there, too, though it doesn't really need that last shot of her, the White Savior, crowd-surfing... though even that comes back to bite her. I respect that, it makes sense. Give her a sense of grandeur now, and let her pay for it next season.
That title of "Mhysa" really bugs me, though. Mother? What is she, Saint Mary? I get that they love her and are grateful, but this holiness stuff... doesn't feel good. She's a person. Highborn, perhaps, but a human woman. Elevating her like that is not healthy - it feeds right into her idea of herself as someone who's above and beyond normal people. Of course, Dany loves that shit.
Short non-sequitur about Daenerys' usual smartass brags: When Missandei comes up with "Valar morghulis", Daenerys replies: "Yes, all men must die. But we are not men." Does that even make sense? I thought High Valyrian was gender-neutral - in fact, it becomes actually a plot point later that a prophecy could talk about either "the prince that was promised" or "the princess that was promised". So... Daenerys, who fancies herself to be an excellent speaker of her mother tongue (eh, no comment about her orator skills), should know that "Valar morghulis" does, in fact, mean "All people must die", not "All males must die". Or did I get something wrong?
Season 4:
Going right on with liberating, Daenerys marches to Meereen, taking a good, long look at 163 crucified slave children. Which is awful and evil on so many levels. Fair. Which is why Daenerys decides to pay that back to the slavers. Fair. By finding out who were the owners of these children and then executing them? Ha, no, she just picks 163 people entirely at random. Wait, what? Yeah, that's right. She doesn't ask who's guilty, who's innocent. She takes a big, stinking dump on every sane justice system. "I will answer injustice with justice" - my ass! That is justice?!? Killing random people? Based on assumptions? Forget about season 7 and 8, she's going off the rails right then and there.
I'll say that her becoming Queen of Meereen was legit. She rallied up the slaves, they decided to follow her. Their choice. They made her their queen, they love her, good and right. But what she does with that power is NOT good and right. It's despotism.
There's also her failure in ruling. Daenerys is good at conquest, not at being queen. Which she doesn't realize. She's resting on her laurels, "breaker of chains" and whatnot. While Astapor and Yunkai are falling into chaos, while the citizens of Meereen start to rise against her. And then there's that lovely sentence about the masters of Yunkai: "They can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Of course, at that time Daenerys refers to a world without slavery. Which is still noble. But she'll start to apply that to everything she wants. Either follow her way, or die. If your opinion differs from hers, it is a wrong opinion and you can die for it.
Cue the citizens of Meereen - her face when she hears that the nobleman Hizdahr zo Loraq wants to talk to her. She's all sugar and caramel when she's talking to the slaves, but when a highborn wants so much as an audience, she develops immediate bitchface. I don't know where she gets that high horse from that she's sitting on. She's highborn herself. What right does she have to hate people for their blue blood when her claim of power rests entirely on her lineage? Hypocrite. Well, back to Hizdahr. He is honest, but he's consistently polite. And yet, Daenerys snaps at him, unloads her outrage about the crucified slave children, learning about her slaughter of innocents much belated and with NO CONCESSION WHATSOEVER that what she did was wrong. She doesn't say she's sorry. She doesn't say that she had no right to kill men who had nothing to do with those atrocities. She allows Hizdahr to bury his father, but she doesn't ask his forgiveness for her wrong.
And then there's the big fat dragon fail. First scene of Daenerys in season 4... shows the Dragon Queen frightened of her dragons. Which, crazy big beasts they are, but didn't she ever try, even once, to train them? Drogon gets all pissy when she tries to calm him down over some food, and she has clearly no control over him. That's kinda lame. Before she claims anything else, she should be in command over those who are her own more than anyone else, the dragons. But she lets them go rogue, and they feed on the livestock of her people. And then on a child. Which is adequately alarming for Daenerys. She steps in - and comes up with an utter failure of consequence. Train the dragons? Nah, lock them away so they can get angry at her and accustomed to being left alone by their "mother". Reign in Drogon, the one who actually killed the little girl? Nah, put Viserion and Rhaegal in chains and let Drogon fly free where ever he wants. WTH, Dany? How did that come topass?
Also, did anyone notice how she's playing Jorah and Daario out against each other? She goes to bed with Daario, which, suit yourself, girl. She doesn't want to bed Jorah, so she keeps him at an appropriate distance. And then... "Tell him it was you who changed my mind." Directed at Jorah, regarding Daario. She just went to bed with Daario. She just discussed war matters with him. She just took his advice about her reign. And now she sets Jorah in front of him like: "Look, here's this guy, my loyal advisor and friend who's OBVIOUSLY IN LOVE WITH ME and I regard his advice higher than yours, nyeh!" That is a weird mind play she has going on with her lover there. And it's harsh on Jorah, who must know that she uses him to demonstrate power over Daario. I don't like this one bit. It's Daenerys lording over Jorah and Daario both that she can do with them as she pleases.
Not much later, she banishes Jorah because she finds he has broken her trust... eh, I think she's overreacting. Jorah pretty much gave up on his spy job after the wine merchant episode, and I can't count how many times he saved her life. And he didn't cost her the baby. Mirri Maz Duur cost her the baby. So what exactly is she pissed at him for? That he served Robert? She doesn't banish Barristan, does she? At least, she reacts emotionally to Jorah's betrayal. She overreacts, but she looks genuinely hurt and upset. And feeds her paranoia.
New season, enter the Sons of the Harpy. Well, Daenerys just overthrew the city's ecology and trade, and the society is in the process of reshaping. Of course that's problematic, and of course there's resistance. Pretty bloody resistance, too, but then, Daenerys didn't exactly sack the city with cookies and hot chocolate. So, kind of appropriate response? Causes more problems than it solves, but I get the impulse. The smarter people around Dany get it, too, and advise her to have a trial for the arrested Son of the Harpy. Legit. Which doesn't happen because Slave Boy kills him without a trial, for which he must be punished. Legit. By... well, just executing him in public, I guess? Without a trial? Ehm? Dany, why should the Son of the Harpy get a trial, but Slave Boy doesn't? That would have been a great opportunity. Carry out the queen's justice in public, hear arguments, correct the impression that you don't give a shit about laws. He even confessed, you still could have had him executed after proving him guilty. But no. It's just that, beheading before an upset crowd. That's... dumb.
Also, she lets Daario do it. That's very Essoshi of her. The Westerosi way is the Stark way - "the man who passes the sentence should swing the sword". Daenerys doesn't do that. She lets people carry out her executions for her, thus distancing herself from the act of killing. Which is not healthy. She should have looked at Slave Boy, hear his last words, kill him with her own hands, know and feel what it means to take a human life. She's losing touch with the people.
Note that it's around that time that she hears from Barristan Selmy that her father really was a whackadoodle nutjob. And she promises to never become like him. Cue her feeding people to her dragons.
What with the dragon issue: Daenerys visits Rhaegal and Viserion in the crypts shortly at the begin of the season - then flies immediately when they hiss at her. She's clearly afraid. Which is why it's clearly a good idea to lead a bunch of highborns down into their dragons' crypts and have one of those men burned alive. Yes, it's clearly a good idea to play around with a weapon you know you cannot control. But there's also the man she killed. With no interrogation, with no investigation if he was ever involved with the Sons of the Harpy. After she has already learned that she killed innocents with a similar action before, without bothering to find out if he had anything to do with Ser Barristan's death in the riot at all. Ser Barristan, who told her that her father burned people alive and called that "justice" because it made him feel powerful. Ser Barristan, for whom she takes revenge by burning someone crisp and calling that "justice". Lesson firmly not learned.
Now, one could say she acted in fury. Everyone's hot-headed once in a while. But Daenerys is a queen and holds responsibility for several hundreds of thousands of lives. One of which she just ended for the sake of her frustration. She has no right to kill people on a whim whose guilt is not much more than an idea in her head. The only thing that proved this man guilty was that he was highborn. If that's enough, Dany should go and execute herself, as she feels she's the highest born of all.
And then Hizdahr again, whom she orders to be her next husband. Daenerys. You killed his father, unjustly. You sacked his city, ruthlessly. You dismissed all of his people's traditions and his pleads with you to try and be a bit more careful. You threatened his life. You threw him in a cell. You tortured him psychologically with your dragons. Have you ever ONCE considered that, perhaps, he doesn't want to marry you? Have you considered that you didn't like to be forced into a marriage without your consent? Have you considered that forcing people into marriage without their consent is an evil thing to do? How can you do that to another after you have suffered it yourself? Yes, she tends to dismiss other people's opinions and knowledge, but right here, she is dismissing her own experience for the sake of holding onto her power, rather than justice.
There's also "I'm going to break the wheel". Yes... but only if that means she's on top. She is willing to build a better world, with no slavery and all. But only with her as the queen. Which begs a question: If everyone is equal, except in relation to her - doesn't that simply mean that they all become her slaves, and hers alone? She doesn't want slave masters to stop existing. She just wants to be the only master in the world. That's not noble anymore, that's just her weird idea that, somehow and for reasons, the rules that apply to everyone else shouldn't apply to her.
I really think the situation only gets better when she makes a run for it and Tyrion takes on ruling the city. He completely fails to estimate the slave masters' intentions, but it is still him who gets Meereen back on tracks. No, of course he's not perfect. But trade starts again, the riots and alley fights stop, at least for a while. It's not Daenerys who reinstalls peace. She's off on a ride with Drogon. On a whim. Or because the situation was too much for her. So much for "I will rule". She doesn't have the cool head and endurance it takes.
Daenerys is imprisoned by the Dothraki and thus back down in the dirt. Subsequently, her next big triumph is just around the corner. I wasn't very surprised by this, and it impressed me less than her hatching of the dragons did. It was pretty obvious that Daenerys' big fat ego wouldn't be satisfied had she become one of the Dosh Khaleen, which is only the most powerful institution in the Dothraki society to whose laws and words every Khal bows. Obviously, not enough for the mighty queen. I don't really mind that she burned the Khals. Bunch of rapists and killers, the lot of them, and the world is a better place without them. What bothers me is that this deed brings her the immediate obediance and fealty of all the Dothraki. She should have opponents, the number of the Khals times three, at least. The bloodriders. Yes, Dothraki follow the strong, and she has proven her strength, but bloodriders are sworn to take vengeance for the death of their Khals. None ever did. I don't get it. "Look, she has burned the temple and she kicks our traditions into the dirt and she just took away the leaders who held thousands and thousands of people in line and protected them, which means now they are exposed to be killed or go rogue - let's follow her, whatevs." Or what exactly is the logic behind that?
Well, she's Daenerys, she gets what she wants, and she can hold another grand speech. I'm a bit bored by her speeches at that point, but at least she's only after conquest this time, not killing innocents. So, fine.
She's also falling out of character for a moment there, adressing one of the other Dothraki girls as "Khaleesi" - "Queen". It's very untypical for her to call anyone else that, but it's a void courtesy anyway as, a couple hours later, said girl kneels before her like the others and Daenerys expects all of their subordination and gets it. And feeds her sense of superiority.
Daario and Jorah are present during her power demonstration and victory over the Khals. Jorah kneels out of habit, it's what he does when he sees Daenerys. However, Daario usually doesn't. He did when he promised her the Second Sons, but after they started their affair, Dany did usually not have Daario kneeling before her. When he sees her there, stepping out of the fire, he's awestruck, fair enough - but there's that look she gives him, hard, distant. She looks like she expects, demands him to kneel, and he does. She's reasserting her dominance over him with one glance, even though she doesn't need to, even tough Daario's subordination is not at all what she is after right now. She wants him to kneel simply because everyone else kneels, so there.
And later she breaks up with him. And admits that she felt nothing. A strange statement about a man who was her lover for approximately two years. I mean, I know it was never the great love, but feeling nothing at all just makes clear how immensely detached Daenerys is from the people around her.
Then there's her talk with Jorah. "I didn't dismiss you"... uh, yes, she did. She banished him, twice. She entirely ignored the things he did for her, twice. Now she's being delusional about her own deeds? How was that not "dismissing"? Either she really doesn't know anymore what she has been and is talking about, which is a worrying state of mind, or she just assumes she can claim everyone around her automatically as her underling, which is arrogant to no end and pisses me off. I suspect it's the latter.
She retakes Meereen, which kinda leaves me with a massive "WTF?" Because she lets Viserion and Rhaegal out again, and the three dragons go on a rampage at the ships beleaguering the bay. But... those are hundreds and thousands of men burning on the ships. Does she think that are the masters of Slaver's Bay? Because, no. Those are slaves she's burning there. She's letting her dragons loose on them. Her still not trained dragons, who still do what they want. Except now, they do what she wants, for no special reason. Because it's convenient. Either way, thousands of people burning in the bay. Breaking chains or something... and she wants to keep doing that, delete the entire army. Tyrion has to remind her that "burn them all" is not a good philosophy, she's far enough gone to not remember that by herself. I'm not sure if Daenerys is still aware that an army consists of soldiers, and soldiers are people. She doesn't count the lives she takes.
Towards Yara, she claims that she's going to leave the world a better place than she found it. Another nice brag. Sounds sweet. I think not, though. She's leaving corpses right and left. People burned alive. Still an awful way to die, and Dany still has no care in the world.
Season 7:
Lucy, I'm hoooome! Meaning Westeros and more specifically Dragonstone. And now it goes steeply downhill.
The blatant hypocrisy of her actions: She has held onto her blathering of free choice, she has let the Unsullied join her if they wanted to and leave her if they didn't. She has let the slaves of Yunkai and Meereen choose whether or not they wanted to support her. She has talked about freedom for years. And now she comes to Westeros, where slavery doesn't exist and thus doesn't need to be obliterated. Westerosi are free people by default. And she WILL NOT LET THEM HAVE A CHOICE. She doesn't allow them to decide if they want her as her ruler. She decides she is their ruler, and they have to accept this. If they don't, they have to die. How does that even work? How do the Essoshi have the choice but the Westerosi, who she always claimed are her people, don't? "Bend the knee" becomes her new mantra - Jon Snow, bend the knee. Cersei Lannister, bend the knee. Randyll Tarly, bend the knee.
And at the same time, she is so incredibly disrespectful towards Jon. I once read an article that speculated on whether or not Jon was sexist to her at their first meeting because he wouldn't recognize her authority as a queen. Seldom laughed as much as I did on that. Jon calls her "Your Grace" from the first moment on. She calls him "my Lord". It is her who disregards his authority. At every damn second. Why? Because Jon has faced creatures that haven't been seen in centuries? Nope, dragons clearly exist whereas White Walkers are clearly BS, as by decree of Her Grace. Because Jon has united the Wildlings behind him and they are willing to fight for him... what, did anyone say "Dothraki"? No, I guess that's something different. Because Jon was installed as a ruler in his realm after freeing his people from a tyrannical reign... what, certain parallels between Bolton-North and Slaver's Bay? Nah, that can't be.
Except it is. Jon can name pretty much exactly the same achievements she has under her belt. He has a large army behind him, people who want to follow him. He is a warrior, and he has been named King in the North. Which Daenerys won't acknowledge.
There's also how she snaps at him for Robert Baratheon sending assassins after her when she was an innocent girl. Which, great. Isn't Ellaria Sand one of your most important allies? She murdered Myrcella. An innocent girl. How can Daenerys not realize, not even ask about the fact that she's surrounding herself with people who did things that she, by all her claims, utterly despises?
And her complaints about heroes like Jon, Daario, Jorah and Drogo doing stupid, reckless things? After she just rode into a battle with no armor and no helmet on? Which she keeps doing, three times over. Girl is being ludicrous.
Her increasing paranoia: All of a sudden, she's wary of Varys. I get that she has a reason to be wary, he has betrayed rulers before if he thought they were inefficient. But why does she remember that now? Varys has served her for a while already. It only now dawns on her that he's not exactly reliable? If she had been distrustful from the moment she's met him, I would have understood, but having it kick in so belatedly smells of paranoia.
Same for Tyrion. Out of the blue, she accuses him of going lightly on his family and trying to undermine her victory. I'll admit that Tyrion's military decisions haven't been great around here, but instead of recalling that Tyrion is her Hand and not a strategist and military commander, her twisted mind spits out the idea that he's plotting against her. After he has given up literally everything to come and be her advisor. She has a very selective hearing for his advice. For example, she hears that she has no heir, but she does not hear that she has literally no idea what to do with the Seven Kingdoms once she has conquered them.
Her growing priority of presenting herself as something superior to other people: Melisandre appeals to her when she tells her of "the prince / princess that was promised". Daenerys takes to the idea immediately. A prophecy that potentially presents her as a pseudo-Messiah? Yeah, of course that's sugar for her ego. And all she does when Jon comes to her, doing for the sake of his people what she would never do, giving himself into his enemy's hands because he hopes for help against the army of the dead... all she does is threaten him, try to intimidate him ("Oh, look, I've got dragons! And Dothraki! And Unsullied! I can destroy you anytime!"), lord her five billion titles over him. Hold him captive on the island. For no good reason, because he hasn't threatened her. He doesn't want to fight her, he doesn't want the Iron Throne. She just has to assert her dominance once again.
She still does when she finally offers her help - only if he bends the knee. "Shouldn't your people's survival be more important than your pride?" Whut. Does she even hear what she's saying? Because, obviously, their survival is NOT more important than HER pride. She claims they are her people, but she's not willing to protect them unless they have sucked her metaphorical c**k first. Jon has told her that she'll be ruling over a graveyard at that rate, and she seems to believe him now. But her ego is just more important. She'll rather rule over a graveyard of kneeling people than over living people who stand.
She wins at the Goldroad, which I'll applaud her for. At least this is military against military, free men against free men. She still burns countless people alive, but admittedly, they know they are at war. The battle is impressive to look at, but when she wins, it doesn't really leave an impression of justice and triumph. Because those are her people she's killed. She has already claimed them as her people before she even came here. Apparently, she doesn't mind killing them by the thousands.
Plus the Tarlys, which was not only an unnecessary cruelty added to insult, but it was also dumb as hell. Randyll Tarly, alright, if needs. But she should have taken the son as her war prisoner. By erasing the heir of the House, she's only doing further damage to her reputation among the rest of Westeros. She's not collecting sympathies by burning a scarcely-of-age boy just because he's not so bright and loyal to his father. Why does she expect the people in Westeros to root for her like the Essoshi did when she is treating them so cruelly?
Last episode of that season has her meeting with Cersei. I'm not impressed with either's behavior. The most important thing Daenerys has to do is obviously staging herself. That big entry on her dragon... wow, soooo awesome. Not. Why did she bring Rhaegal? Had she left him at home and come only with Drogon, nobody would have suspected that she's a dragon short of her package. They would have just assumed that she only brought her personal mount. But no, she brings two dragons, having everyone rightfully assume that she doesn't have three anymore, just because she had to flaunt what she has. Jeez.
Oh, almost forgot: She takes another lover. A man whom she could only accept, of course, after he knelt before her.
Season 8 so far:
Up she goes to claim the North. Sansa got a lot of shit online for her behavior when she and Daenerys met first. Which I don't get. I have to side with Sansa here. What does she know of Daenerys? That she is Aerys' daughter. That she has burned people alive, most recently father and son Tarly because they wouldn't kneel (which sounds awfully similar to what Sansa knows Aerys did to her grandfather and her uncle Brandon). That she is conquering Westeros by force. That she wants the entire North, proud people with whom Sansa has been working and living for a long time now, to give up their pride and their choice of a leader, namely their King in the North Jon, for her sake. That Jon has given up the North to her without consulting the other Northern lords. That Daenerys comes up there with thousands of men and two dragons and demands to be fed. No, she doesn't even demand it. She expects it. She is there, she's come to save y'all, be grateful or be quiet. Sansa has been called petty for pointing out the food situation. That's not petty. That's realistic. At that time, they expect a long, hard winter. Sansa has to feed the Northmen, and she has prepared for it. Daenerys messes up these plans, giving no f**k at all. But what good is it to win the war if the survivors starve?
"What do dragons eat, anyway?" - "Whatever they want."
That's not only an incredibly arrogant statement, it's also true. Apparently, Rhaegal and Drogon eat 18 sheep and 11 goats when they "barely eat anything". I don't know how many people could live on that for a month, but for the dragons, it's only a little fraction of their daily ration. Sansa is not petty, she's right. Such an immense need of food threatens the survival of people. Then there's some thousands Unsullied. Daenerys has never paid a thought to that. It's probably beneath her; it's more important that she could ride into Winterfell with that big, smug grin plastered across her face. Remember that farmer in Meereen who brought her the bones of his dragon-roasted goat, way before dead toddler shenanigans? She paid him back for his losses, three times over. For perhaps a couple goats. I don't think she plans to compensate for what massive amounts her dragons and troups are devouring at Winterfell. Because she's the queen, b***h, be grateful for her meer presence and stuff her big mouth, dammit!
Jon's first dragon ride - okay, I'll admit, for him, it was a pretty awesome scene. But for Daenerys? Not so much. Jon utters concerns on what'll happen if Rhaegal doesn't want him on his back. Daenerys replies: "Then it was nice knowing you." WHAT. IS. WRONG. WITH. YOU? That man is her most valuable ally, one of her most important advisors, and over that, he is her lover. The possibility that he might die trying to ride the dragon... causes her to make a callous, disinterested, even scornful quip. That's how far she's gone. Her lover doesn't mean enough to her that she'd even reassure him like "He likes you, he won't throw you off" or even "Eh, if he drops you, I'll catch you". Nope. Not Daenerys. In her eyes, Jon isn't worth that, it seems.
Jaime's "trial" is a thing of ridiculousness. She comes up with Jaime killing her father... after she has acknowledged, time and time again, that her father was insane and should not have ruled. In fact, Jaime did the right thing. Perhaps not a noble thing - stabbing someone in the back never is - but the right thing all the same. She knows that. She disregards it here to make a point, to keep up her pretty picture of reality, in which she is right and someone she dislikes is wrong.
Or someone who dislikes her is wrong. Sansa obviously dislikes her, and as Daenerys can't just burn her (it's Jon's sister after all), she tries to ingratiate herself to Sansa. Cue invading personal space. Has nobody told her that it's impolite to just touch someone who's made it obvious they don't like you? Keep your hands to yourself. She keeps blathering on how they both made their way to power in a world where usually men rule (uh-huh, like the Dosh Khaleen, Ellaria and the Sand Snakes, Olenna and Margaery, Yara, Cersei, Lyanna Mormont, Alys Karstark...), trying to reduce the matter at hand to a sexist issue (which it is not, but more on that in the next paragraph). I wouldn't give too much on your similarity, girl. Sansa does not have thousands of corpses paving her way. Then there's this cringy and kinda out-of-place joke about Jon being her second love and the first having been "someone taller". I don't know why everyone is commenting on Jon's height recently, but I also don't know why Daenerys thinks that's funny. Has she now acquired an idiotic sense of humor on top of it all? Anyway, Sansa is not impressed, and Dany is not pleased that Sansa won't eat her shit.
And then the big reveal. Gosh, that almost had her snap. Someone else with the last name Targaryen. And her point is that Jon might "have a claim on the throne" (he doesn't have a claim, he's the rightful heir, period) because he's male? Bull***t! Everyone's suddenly trying to turn this into a sexist thing! It has never been one to begin with. Jon's birthright has nothing to do with him having a penis. He is the trueborn son of Rhaegar, who was the firstborn son of Aerys and thus heir to the throne. The crown and throne are always passed down the line of the firstborns. Jon doesn't have the stronger claim because he's a man and she's a woman, he has a stronger claim because his father was her elder brother. Simple as that. Why does she act like she doesn't know the rules?
She says a lot more on that, like how convenient it is that, of all people, Jon's best friend and brother found this out, and now of all times... she's standing on the verge of an abyss here. All her efforts may be worth nothing after all. If her claim on rightfulness is built on her blood, then she has to acknowledge that Jon is more rightful an heir than she is, because of his blood.
Truth be told, there is no sexist double standard at play. The double standard she tries to have set in stone is that between Daenerys and Literally Everyone Else. See her actions and the consequences she has to bear in comparison to what others did...
Cersei blew up the Sept of Baelor - Daenerys set Slaver's Bay ablaze. Cersei earned disgust, fear, dismay. Daenerys... revalidated her reign in Meereen. Hundreds of people died in flames at either occasion. For either of them it was a victory, respectively. Cersei's action is used as negative propaganda, Daenerys uses hers as positive.
Robb beheaded Rickard Karstark - Daenerys beheaded that overzealous Slave Boy on her council. For Robb, his deed sealed his doom. For Daenerys, it led to her having kinda a harsh time... from which she ultimately emerged unscathed. After publicly executing an important member of her council, speaker of a lot of her supporters.
Margaery underestimated the power of the Faith - Daenerys entirely disposed of all cultural norms of the Dothraki and Meereenese. Margaery got overthrown by the High Sparrow and his militia, falling prey to people who are driven by their convictions dialled up to fanatism. Daenerys ended up with all the Dothraki following her, leaving their land and all ideals of their culture behind to adjust to the wishes of a foreigner who has murdered their entire leadership.
Jon upset the brothers of the Night's Watch with his decisions - Daenerys upset the Meereenese highborns with her decisions. Jon got murdered for it (yeah, he got better, but that was not his idea or responsibility). Daenerys ended up having the Sons of the Harpy and their allies extinguished good and large.
Melisandre set Shireen on fire - Daenerys set the guy in the crypt of Meereen on fire. Melisandre was subsequently called "evil" for murdering an innocent person who had nothing to do with the issue at hand. Daenerys suffered no consequences whatsoever for feeding a man to her dragons whose fault was ultimately that he was highborn, as far as we know.
Daenerys has never had to suffer full consequences. It has never gotten to the core of her brain that she's not a goddess, not an invincible heroine blessed and justified by prophecies, but simply a conqueror. Now she looks around herself and realizes that the people of Westeros don't love her as her Essoshi entourage does. And that they love Jon. And that, no matter how she dishes out Lordships, smiles her plastered-on smile and ingratiates herself to people, they don't accept her as they accept Jon. This ticks her off. Not only does he have the birthright, he has the people's love - were there an election, Jon would win.
Which is why she begs him to never tell anyone of his ancestry. Begs him, with wide, insane eyes and a shaking voice, clinging desperately to the reign she's been working towards. She's ridiculous and just a tad pathetic, and the scene would have made me laugh if I wasn't so concerned for Jon. Because she doesn't trust him anymore. She's begging him to keep it a secret because she views him as a threat, even though he's already said he doesn't want the damned throne. She won't let him ride Rhaegal anymore (which, in my opinion, led to Rhaegal's death, but that's another speculation). She doesn't trust him anymore now that she knows he's at least potential competition - and as she doesn't trust him, I think she will try to kill him soon.
Then there's the loss of Rhaegal, Missandei, and Jorah. Not her first losses, but the most recent and possibly those that have the largest impact on her. Her "baby", which she apparently didn't look after very well, and the two people whom she trusted the most. And Jorah could at least soften some of her crueller impulses. Missandei not so much - on the contrary, even with her last breath she fueled Daenerys' murderous rant. Eh. I used to like Missandei. What happened the last two episodes that she suddenly went full Why-won't-you-love-her-and-be-grateful? Whatevs, she's dead, and her death may have been the last straw for Dany, if it wasn't Rhaegal's.
And now I'm reading that Daenerys is getting a "villain upgrade"? An "unearned turn in her story"? No, it doesn't feel like that to me. It feels like a character arc that was built up over a long time is now finally paying out. She has never been "an unabashed hero". She has grown towards callousness, paranoia, cruelty and megalomania over a long time now. She's on the breaking point. So far she has been hungry for power. Now she's desperate for it, now that it might be taken away from her.
There has been quite a lot of talk about Daenerys being such a strong feminist character, and that her story is one of empowerment. To me, it reads like the story of her descent into madness. Killing people is not empowerment, it's murder. A woman forcing a man into marriage and mistreating him verbally is not empowerment, it's abuse. A queen giving the choice of "kneel before me or die" is not empowerment, it's proof of an awfully unhealthy, tyrannical hybris.
Daenerys has reached her logical conclusion. She has never been pure and unadultered good, she has gotten worse and worse, and now she is a Mad Queen, not a bit better than Cersei and four years past her last truly heroic deed. I hope someone pulls a Jaime Lannister on her before she pulls an Aerys on Westeros.